The Prestige Trap: Why Chasing Brand-Name Colleges Increases Stress (and What to Do Instead)
In neighborhoods across the country, college admissions have become a spectator sport. Parents swap test-score updates at soccer games, teens trade rumors about who got into where, and social media feeds fill up with announcement posts featuring school logos that feel more like status symbols than celebrations. If your family has ever felt the pull of this comparison game, you’re not alone. It’s part of what we call the prestige trap—and it’s quietly fueling stress, disappointment, and burnout for students who deserve better. What Exactly Is the Prestige Trap? The prestige trap is the belief that the value of a [...]
What to Pack for College: What Your Teen Really Needs (and What to Skip)
It was move-out day at the University of Chicago, and the iconic gargoyles kept watch on the chaos below. Convocation weekend meant no parking. The new off-campus apartment was on the fourth floor (no elevator, naturally). The SUV was packed with a bed, mattress, desk, and chair, impossibly, but thankfully, packed into boxes courtesy of the geniuses at IKEA. This all had to be delivered to the new off-campus apartment so there would be space in the SUV to move the dorm items, including approximately 27 hoodies, out. The day was filled with emotions. Goodbye to cozy dorm life and [...]
How Parents Can Manage Anxiety During their Teen’s College Admissions Process
Let’s be honest—watching your teen navigate the college decision process can be stressful. It’s a whirlwind of acceptance letters, financial aid offers, campus visits, and “What if they don’t pick the right school?” swirling in your mind. Sound familiar? You’re not alone. The college decision phase is one of the most emotionally charged moments for parents. But here’s the good news—you can survive it (and so can your teen) with a little perspective and a few solid strategies. Recognize That Anxiety Is Normal First, cut yourself some slack. It’s completely normal to feel anxious when your child is making a [...]